NB: this post features neither lions nor witches.
This morning I put my relationship status live on Facebook, and was really touched by all the kind comments and likes – thanks for that.
It’s weird I’ve never really mentioned on Facebook before that I’m in a relationship with Donny – not in a big way anyway. Why would I tell people when I miss a train, or have a particularly good sandwich, but not announce to the world about my relationship with a lovely man?
I guess a lot of it comes from my Christian upbringing, which is all about loving other people and putting others before yourself. But it has the unfortunate side-effect of me keeping me quiet about things that are important to me when there is a possibility it could offend other people – particularly my Christian friends.
Most Christians are OK with people ‘being’ gay – but ‘doing’ gay is a whole other matter. When I first started figuring out what it meant to be gay most of my friends were really supportive and understanding, but when I started dating men I know a lot of people were really struggling with whether or not it was ‘OK’. So when things started getting serious with Donny I didn’t tend to bang on about in Facebook just in case of any of my Christian friends would have an issue.
But now I’m getting married. And this kind of caution has to stop. Getting married is not a secret thing, or a thing you only tell certain people. The whole point about doing it is that it is seen by other people. And I want everyone I know to fully understand that this is who I am, and Donny is the person I’m choosing to hitch my wagon to (Not literally.)